Ght out Hmmm what to do Naomi was already having technicolored orgasms with her man so what the hell does one do now regarding such histrionics Unfortunately my late mother is no longer available for comment I will say though that Wolf s point should be taken and understood by men This woman is the love of your life don t treat her or her vagina with disrespect and xpect her to fly off to Oz in your arms If men spent as much time polishing their relationships with the women they love as polishing the fenders of their Dodge Ram pickups the world would be a far better place Like I say I immensely Becoming an Academic Writer enjoyed this book and found myself in agreement with most of what she said I do think that Wolf tended to overstate her case Does the vagina affect a woman s thoughts and is it affected by thoughts I think so I believe that there is a definite brain genital connection in both women and men just like there is a definite brain gut connection Ever get butterflies in your stomach before giving a speech Has a dose of intestinal flu affected your thoughts Does this mean that women are incapable of being a CEO because their vaginas might take offense to a certain product line or corporate deal Absolutely not Can womenxperience the world in technicolor after having the right type of orgasm Well let me put it to you this way my own orgasms are paltry affairsputt putt putt and I am done Yeah it feels good but I can t say that I am particularly changed by the A Land More Kind Than Home event But when my wife has an orgasm she flies off and circles the rings Saturn and she carries me along with her I see technicolor after one of my wife s orgasms so if it affects me like that I can only guess what it does for her So no I don t think Wolf isxaggerating I am being A Free Man entirely honest here my wife s orgasms are farnjoyable EDITEDI CHANGED MY MIND Naomi Wolf in general and this book in particular have been mired in controversy and showered with praise alternately I find myself somewhere in the middle I see its limitations and problems but don t think its Betting on Fate entirely harmful and Wolf herself does try to acknowledge any flaws or biases her and her book may haveOverall I learned some things I m shocked aren t routinely taught to both men and women and am confirmed in my suspicious that the Western mode of thinking and talking about female sexuality biology and chemistry is incredibly limited and often archaic in all the wrong ways However I am disturbed by Wolf s assertion that great sex is the key to a woman s creativity intelligence and sense of self not to diminish the importance of one s sexuality but the idea that if you aren t getting some and not just any some but mind blowing orgasms some then you aren t a fully realised woman obviously raises a lot ofyebrows and uestions and problemsI just wish it was couched as Wolf s own Masters of Death experience andxploration rather than as if it s devulging some if not universal than at least American heterosexual feminist truth Wolf has understood her body and found sexual fulfillment and that s great for her But it might not apply to all bodies it s a biography of her vagina and a little bit of science on what the average vagina might be But to The Spaniards Untouched Bride (Brides of Innocence extend it further than that seems dangerous to me in line with the same sort of narrow thinking that produced Freudian psychoanalysis and female hysteria So now I ve talked myself out of liking it at all Why does the author feel the need to write a book about the vagina Because as many as 30% of western women report that they get little pleasure from making love Because bad sex is linked to depressionA lot of my readers who are in their twenties their first concern is about porn addictionPornography has speeded up sex so there is a lot less foreplay kissing or going to second or third base The desensitisation of the brain s response to porn is not good for intimacy This is a book that will make you uestion your faith inverything It is not good at all This book was like tearing the scab off a freshly healed wound It s been so long since I ve had to deal with the shittiness that is The Chestnut Tree (The Bexham Trilogy evolutionary psychology and then Naomi Wolf comes along and reminds me of just how terrible it is all over againWell let s do thisVagina A New Biography is Wolf s syncretism of Eastern teachings about sex particularly Tantra with Western medicine with a particular focus on the way women in the West regard their vagina It s the fifth book in the Banging Book Club an awesome monthly reads group about sex and sexuality run by Hannah Witton Lucy Moon and Leena Norms I havenjoyed all of the previous club reads to one Stay extent or another but I don t think I can say that about Vagina What starts as a promising book about women s relationships with their vaginas kind of like a scientific look at the same ideasxplored from an Laws of Ascension Companion emotional angle in The Vagina Monologuesventually turns into a poor mash up of biological determinism and The DIY Music Manual. Randy Chertkow Jason Feehan evolutionary psychology Here s how Vagina went from good to boring to bad to worseI was actually veryxcited to read Vagina for so many reasons I was aware that Wolf has been a source or topic of controversy in recent years but I had genuinely appreciated The Beauty Myth and will stand by the idea that it s a seminal work of feminist scholarship I was also looking forward to learning about vaginas because I don t have one and men don t really learn No Mans Daughter enough about them in school I m always interested in learning about perspectives that are by dint of circumstance inaccessible to me It was with somexhilaration that I proudly read this book in public during my flights home from a work trip as well as in the airport lounge on the layover I wanted people to see a man reading a book called Vagina and if it led to any genuine conversations if I could help people see that there is value in deconstructing stereotypes about gender and what is appropriate knowledge for our genders then cool Indeed my seatmate on my last flight actually asked me about the book after we had already struck up a general conversation However at that point I was only a few chapters in and the book was still good and interesting so I was much positive about it than I feel nowPerhaps Vagina is so promising because of its context Wolf opens with a lengthy anecdote about a reduction in sensation felt as a result of pelvic nerve damage something she Melody on Loan eventually fixes thanks to medical consultations and surgery Shexpresses her amazement that if she hadn t linked the disappearance of her rosy afterglows with a physical ailment she might not have discovered the problem at all During this period she learned about how the vagina is connected to the brain and it apparently awoke a deeper curiosity in her Hence a biographical look at vaginas I guess And I was totally on board because as The Vagina Monologues asserted a decade before this book our society has a hang up on vaginas They are a taboo subject yet beneath the surface so many of us brim with intense curiosity and fascination And I agree with Wolf that women have too long have been made to feel dirty or ashamed and that many of the modern standards of beauty tell women that their natural vaginas are bad and need to be perfumed made up ven altered to become acceptableAlthough initially unsettled by the title of Part 1 Does the Vagina Have a Consciousness and its implications of far too much mysticism for my taste Wolf s zealous commitment to scientific language and citing research won me over I was learning things about female physiology that I hadn t known And Wolf xplores many of the physical xplanations for why many women have difficulty achieving orgasm as xpeditiously as men This whole idea of course is hugely parodied and constantly referenced in our comedy men just want uickies women need candlelit dinners and flowers and commitment and then there s some kind of punchline that is almost certainly misogynistic and sometimes also Empire of the Saviours (Chronicles of a Cosmic Warlord, emasculating We re socialized to see women s needs as unimportant at best and weak or repugnant at worst withoutver really stopping to ask why So I approve of Wolf attempting to uncover some of the science behind these differencesAlas Ex On The Beach even in this first part there are moments when I had to pause and blink and maybe do a double take Wolf likes to make a lot of generalizations particularly when it comes to findings about hormone levels She begins to mix science with anecdotesIxperienced some of the thoughts of the uterus myself In 2000 I wrote about how oxytocin had made me gentler conflict averse and basically nicer when I was pregnant My uterus was doing some of my thinking for me in spite of my will and mediating my consciously autonomous consciously assertive feminist brainNow let s be clear I have nothing against anecdotes Interesting stories are the life blood of non fiction What s problematic here is the way Wolf seems to accord anecdotal Good Thinking evidence the same level of privilege as scientificvidence She constantly mentions hundreds of responses she receives from people in response to articles she has written as if this correspondence should have the same weight as lab studiesIt s very Death in Mumbai easy to do bad science Last Week Tonight with John Oliver very recently did a whole bit on this So a science writer has a duty to her readers to distinguish between reliable and potentially unreliable or flawed studiesWolf doesn t do this She relies a great deal on studies on rats and uses them to draw conclusions about human sexual behaviour and yeah we do tend to study rat brains and then draw conclusions about human brains but at no point does Wolf stop and remind us that hey rats are not humans and maybe there is going on here At one time she cites a study that had nineteen participants without mentioning anything about the possibility of small sample size biasWorse still Wolf compounds her habit of mixing science and anecdotesI conducted informal interviews with groups of women with whom I met both in person and online I told them about the possibleffects of semen and then I asked them to remember back to a relationship in which they had at first religiously used condoms and then had stopped using condoms Same guy same sexual style same scent any differenceI saw looks of shocked recognition cross my interviewees faces Totally different said Julia a graphic designerEmphasis mineWhat No Do not do this Telling people about the Baccarat : La lgende du cristal effect you want to measure is called confirmation bias and it is a huge no no Entire scientific protocols are designed to avoid this very serious problem Further asking people to remember back is fraught with problems our memories are so very fallible Taken together it should not be surprising that Wolf got the reaction she did It s like telling people most robberies are committed by shifty guys in ball caps right before you ask them if a shifty guy in a ball cap was lurking outside a jewellery store that was robbed Chances are they will remember the guy vividlyven if he didn t O Colégio de Todos os Segredos existThis is is also possibly a case of spurious correlation if the couples had progressed to a point in the relationship where the condoms came off it s likely there were other factors that made the relationship good and that could very well be the cause of the better sexWolf goes on to sayBut I do think it is important to understand what may happen to the female mind when we do take in semen When a man comes in a woman s mouth she may feelnergized when he comes in her vagina it can boost her tenderness and if Meston and Buss are right help levate her moodSeriouslyNaomi Wolf is seriously telling women that semen has brain altering properties and they should get themselves of it In their vaginas In their mouths Just all the semen EverywhereLook it is possible that Wolf is right and semen does have such properties But because of the way she presents these ideas by conflating possibly unreliable scientific studies with anecdotal and unuestionably flawed stories we cannot responsibly accept her conclusion So I m not saying she s wrong about semen or about Tantra or about vaginal pulses I m just saying that her writing undermines the credibility of her xplanations This is not a scientific book it is a heavily opinionated book masuerading as scientific and that is something Zoete tranen elsentirelyThat whole semen thing comes from the last chapter in which Wolf dispenses advice for how to pay attention to a woman s sexual needs Some of it i The Vagina MythJaclyn FriedmanSeptember 11 2012The American Prospecthttpprospectorgarticlevagina myth Naomi Wolf s yoni worship isn t just silly it s dangerousThis summer Michigan state representative Lisa Brown was banned from the House floor when she dared to say the word vagina in a debate about proposed restrictions on abortion Just three weeks ago Todd Akin revealed what many Republicans believe If you get pregnant it can t have been rape It s been a year of politicians trying to force women to have medically unnecessary transvaginal ultrasounds and personhood amendments granting one celled organisms rights than women as long as the cell resides in the woman s uterus If there ver were a cultural moment crying out for an impassioned defense of the vagina it would be now It s beyond unfortunate then that Naomi Wolf s new book Vagina A New Biography is such a failure Vagina A New BiographyBy Naomi Wolf Ecco Press 400 pages 27Wolf is best known for her 1991 text The Beauty Myth but recently has made headlines for claiming that penetrating a sleeping woman represents a model sexual negotiation and saying that rape victims should lose their right to anonymity if they report the crime to authorities She was inspired to write Vagina by a personal medical crisis in which her sexual response was diminished by what turned out to be a mild form of spina bifida Using her intimate journey back to sexual health as the frame of reference the book s core argument is that the vagina and the brain are ssentially one whole system and that the vagina mediates female confidence creativity and transcendence What starts as a biology lesson uickly Revived evolves into anvange. Erly Student Research Projects in Calculus enthralling and totally fascinating Vagina A New Biography draws on this set of insights about the mind vagina connection to reveal new information about what women really need and considers what a sexual relationship and a relationship to the self transformed by these insights could look likeExhilarating and groundbreaking Vagina A New Biography combines rigorous sciencexplained for lay readers with cultural history and deeply personal considerations of the role of female desire in female identity creativity and confidence from interviewees of all walks of life Heralded by Publishers Weekly as one of the best science books of the year it is a provocative.
This is a difficult review to write I absolutely LOVE reading about sexuality neuroscience tantric practices and perceptions about orgasmic pleasure these are incredibly important topics We carry such burdensome beliefs concerning human sexuality barbaric beliefs that cloud our minds from what is otherwise life affirming bliss we are born judgment free and open unburdened by the labels and divisiveness that so many of us learn throughout life we learn dogma and go and certainty shallow ideas that prevent us from xperiencing the divine in our Love for Imperfect Things every breathI should have loved this book it should be amazingThese are wonderful topics I love where her heart is in wanting to write this book a richer and deeper understanding of both the scientific and spiritual aspects of sexuality so perhaps that s why I felt so disappointed reading this this disappointment climaxed during her visit to the sacred spot massage workshop where she writesI was skeptical still that a night in the hands of a stranger could be so life changing I couldn t imagine doing it myselfAnd then she went home really she went homeCould she seriously not imagine Did she actually lackven the imagination to do what A Heart of Stone every woman in the room was doing She then heaped condescending praise on those women somehow oblivious to the fact thatvery person in that room has a better story to tell than Naomi Wolf but in this book you re trapped in Naomi Wolf s judgmental Taking Instruction (Taboo, ego and those beautiful stories of those nameless goddesses perhaps they went to discover transcendent pleasure and bliss those stories are completely ignored left to be told by braver and less judgmental writersShe later makes an appointment with a sexual healer and then systematically refuses to do anything sexual She wants to learn but apparently not at thexpense of challenging her cruel judgmental world view Why write a book about what you refuse to learn about what you refuse to doImagine writing a book about cooking while refusing to cook or Language and Linguistics evenat the foods you write aboutShe then refers to this same sexual healer as a whore but you know the good kind like Pretty Woman in reverse She directly invokes the whore with a heart of gold stereotype and seemed cynically skeptical at his audacious and far reaching claims Ironically she remained ignorant of her own far reaching claimsIf you re at all open minded about sexuality or gender roles it s hard not to be continuously insulted while reading this bookMany reviewers have pointed out the problems with her scientific understanding although annoyingly it seems she has the right science but she goes about it with haphazard assumptions and makes a mess of it she stumbles and plods through research papers doing mostly guesswork and badly misrepresenting Divertimento every aspect of scienceForxample she clearly has no understanding of what a control group is but continuously refers to control group where there are no obvious controls or where there wasn t Love Is a Fairy Tale even anxperimentNaomi you are not a control group a single person can not be a control group that s not what a control group is Those dakinis you interviewed were not a control group those were human beings you were interviewingIn her conclusion she tells the story of seeing a forest fire near Petra while vacationing in Greece While watching the fire she realized that the original sin did not as the Judeo Christian tradition has it originate in human sexuality Our species original sin was in deviating from our Promise at Dawn earliest tradition of reverence for the feminine and for female sexualityPerhaps because I was not raised with such silly mythology I don t think of the original sin when I see a forest fireI don t think seriously of original sin Consider our understanding of ourselves thisarth this universe there is knowledge in this world much of it available for free on wikipedia that far transcends such archaic and cruel notions of original sin But to Naomi Wolf there IS an original sin and it will burn down cities in Greece and kill innocents all because we deviated from our reverence for the feminine I ll agree hers is slightly less barbaric than the original sin described in the bible but it s an awful and hateful belief to carry around in ones mindThis is where the reader also has an piphany that Naomi Wolf is so steeped in her own Judeo Christian social constructs that she really cannot imagine allowing herself a sacred spot massage or xperiencing first hand transcendent orgasmic bliss instead she holds in her mind that humans are suffering under an original sin Now sure she claims that our original sin lies in five thousand years of shaming it I thnk she means the vagina but when she describes ancient tantric practices yoni worship and The Goddess Array I guess those didn t Bangkok Wakes to Rain exist in the last five thousand years or does she just mean this is a western original sin Or does she just mean this is a silly idea in her head that has no relevance to the beautiful myriad of human sexualxperienceOccasionally she makes strong assertions without any reference which are completely falseFor The Right Sort of Man (Sparks Bainbridge Mystery examplethe porn industry is now larger than conventional film records books and video combinedYou can Google this the porn industry is smaller thanach of those industries Porn brings in about 14 billion per year whereas conventional film records and books bring in 40 billion 15 billion and 28 billion respectively I m not sure what she means by video I certainly hope she s not referring to the 90 billion cable television industry or the 20 billion local television industry Porn may be big business but it s smaller than Darkmere each of herxamples and obviously much smaller than the combined revenue of those industriesOther times she makes inarticulate statements that don t seem to relate to her topic and somehow still gets things wrong here s a fun Et si la maladie n'tait pas un hasard ? example where I bet no onelse will call her onIn Manhattan the Private Eyes Gentlemen s Club advertises with sings on top of taxicabs A few years ago the women s faces in such ads simply looked fetching and seductive About a year ago the women began to gaze into the camera with an Den of Shadows (Gamblers Den expression that was slightly frightened or angry Recently I noticed faintly but unmistakable on a sign for the Private Eyes strip club that on the upper cheekbone of a lovely model advertising the club there was now a single drop Was it a tearI don t particularly care about strip clubs but Private Eyes sits right between the Broadway Dance Center and the Al Hirschfeld Theatre and my apartment It s literally just two buildings down from where I live On the same block there s also several restaurants a homeless shelter luxury condominiums and well it s New York Private Eyes is just a strip club They have a simple logo of drawn COMIC BOOKyes staring over the words private Scraps Of The Untainted Sky eyes I pass by itvery day as I walk to work there s no tear there s no anger it s not The Eric Carle Gift Set even a photo Google privateyes nyc and you can see for yourselfAll that said I did uite like her artful descriptions of her own orgasms I could read an Huguenot Prophecy and Clandestine Worship in the Eighteenth Century entire book of Naomi Wolf describing her post coital seemingly synesthetic joy the singing dancing colors oh Naomi don t stop But unfortunately that s not the book she wrote Instead she plods through topics of science and spirituality with haphazard guesswork doing no justice to any of the very fascinating topics she referencestl dr go find a beautiful lover that thinks you re wonderful and don t read this book Yeah that s right I read a book called VaginaNaomi Wolf and I have a complicated relationship The Beauty Myth changed my life when I read it as a teenager But then she broke my political heart when she became pro life after being pregnant Still I feel compelled to read her books based on thatarly and powerful influenceBut this one was a dud She gets two stars instead of one because she s Naomi Wolf but I really didn t think this was a very good book Essentially I felt like she couldn t decide between trying to be scientific or trying to be philosophical about the vagina She would start many chapters or themes with scientific studies and then branch off from there cite some anecdotal Fashion Design Course evidence and then say something like it is too far fetched then toxtrapolate XYZ and ABC about the vagina and then it would devolve into what I often thought was mumbo jumbo She would use science as a launching point for her own wild theories Not that all of them were wrong necessarily it just felt like she was using hard science to try and support mental meandering I really njoyed Naomi Wolf s new book Vagina A New Biography Of course I would I am a heterosexual male monogamist and a first class flake so I was like a kitten with a bowl of warm milk It puts me in mind of that song from The Sound of Music These Are A Few of My Favorite Things In a way I wish some one lse beside Wolf had wrote the book then I would not be forced to acknowledge that much of the world thinks this is a silly book and most of the people who think that are women I really like the idea that a woman s vagina and brain are one We men have been accused of thinking with our little heads for centuries so it refreshing to see a feminist make such a claim for women and their vaginas I also like the idea that my wife is a goddess and her yoni is sacred and by appealing to her goddess array and Alternatives Chapter 2 (The Chronos Files; The Shattered Saga engaging in deeply penetrative coitus I can send her galloping off on a magical unicorn of orgasm across a technicolor rainbow of pheromones from my arm pits and a love potion number 9 of feel good hormones and neurotransmitters absorbed from my semen This is all good stuff and I loved reading about it and yes I amxaggerating but only slightly what Wolf has said in the book But I can also understand where many women may not uite like the idea that their thinking is so strongly colored by their vaginas or that they need a man to help them see in technicolor I also think the Wolf is getting worked over with some past due karmic debts from some feministsI saw numerous references to Julian Assange in many negative reviews While I consider myself a pro feminist supporter I am in no way familiar with the nuances and politics within the movement but I definitely get the feeling that Wolf has stepped on a few toes in the past and her book is something of a pair of combat boots in a ballet Much of what I read in Vagina I already knew I have an interest in sex like some people have in astronomy However there was for me one piece of valuable information that I never realized before The female pelvic innervation is not only far complex than I understood but also subject to a lot of variation from woman to woman This Cincinnati and Other Plays explains the mystery of vaginal orgasms verses clitoral orgasms As I have long suspected Freud s claims of a woman s maturity determining the type of orgasm shexperiences is bullshit If a woman lacks the nerve connections for deep vaginal orgasms then she will xperience clitoral orgasm maturity has nothing to do with it For me this was worth the price of the book Another fascinating bit of knowledge for me was that although I knew nipple stimulation causes oxytocin to be released I did not know that nipple stimulation is actually used in natural child birth procedures to initiate labor contractions It amazes me that nipple stimulation would have this kind of power Wolf provides some cautions that a woman may want to be choosy about whom she gives access to her bra specially near the I Like You the Best end of her pregnancy Oxytocin is a bonding hormone Helen Fisher has offered much the same advice regarding whom one sleeps with Some of the reviews I read took Wolf to task regarding the uality of her research I suppose one could ask to what standard does one hold such a book It is what I would consider a popularization not a scientific document She providesxtensive footnotes and to be honest I saw very little that would give me pause although bear in mind I am a hobbyist not an The collectors encyclopedia of antique marbles expert She did rely a good bit on anecdotalvidence but I also believe that she adeuately identified what was valid research and what was anecdotal That said there was one area of concern for me regarding research that cast a wider shadow on the The Philosophy of Giambattista Vico entirenterprise She uotes Marnia Robinson in several places and calls her a dopamine researcher Marnia Robinson is an author not a scientist She promotes a type of non orgasmic sex called karezza and in my opinion gets a bit hysterical about orgasms Yes I am not a fan of Robinson although I think she means well What Wolf uoted about dopamine was not out of context but still uoting Robinson in an Lone Star Standoff extremely pro orgasmic book struck me like having Rush Limbaugh deliver the keynote speech at the Democratic National Convention Robinson the last I knew was not about to say anything good about an orgasm so her appearance in Wolf s book was a bit curious and would suggest a hurriedffort at research I did a uick internet search and found nothing from Robinson refuting Wolf s book It sort of struck me that a pissing contest is being avoided Although I will Punishment Of The Cheating Wife emphasize it was a uick search Another area of concern I think Wolf seemed to go a bit overboard with her reactions to negative references to the vagina I agreentirely that women should not be subjected to obscene language and that men should not only refrain from using such terms but to not think of women in such terms However as we all know such terminology More Punishment For His Cheating Wife exists and is widely used by the Neanderthals among us So how does one handle it During my working life I had been called various things of the four lettered persuasions some involving maternal sex and fellatio the first technically true the latter not If I were to take such things to heart I would have had to uit working at a very tender age So I regarded Wolf s claim of six months of writer s blocks over an ignorant reference to pasta vulvas a bit over the top It brought to mind something my mother said about the histrionics my cousin inflicted on the world when she was in high school A good six inches of hard manhood delivered fast and furiously would straighten that girl ri. An astonishing work of cuttingdge science and cultural history that radically reframes how we understand the vagina and conseuently how we understand women from one of our most respected cultural critics and thinkers Naomi Wolf author of the modern classic The Beauty MythWhen an unexpected medical crisis sends Naomi Wolf on a deeply personal journey to tease out the intersections between sexuality and creativity she discovers much to her own astonishment an increasing body of scientific vidence that suggests that the vagina is not merely flesh but an intrinsic component of the female brain and thus has a fundamental connection to female consciousness itselfUtt.
List text On her magical mystery tour of female sexual biology Wolf cherrypicks and misinterprets research to support her conclusion that G spot orgasms are better for women than clitoral orgasms though she seems to also know that the G spot is actually a part of the clitoris and that having as many of these special orgasms as possible is what nables women to be creative ambitious The View from Alameda Island emotionally available and spirituallynlightened The rest of the book When Fox Is a Thousand explores the ways that men and lessnlightened feminists have harmed women s ability to have this particular kind of orgasm and offers her recommendations for how of us can 100 Innovations of the Industrial Revolution experience it Her prescription We should all worship the vagina as a goddess and men should be nicer and tender to their women Wolf s big finish is her conclusion that our species original sin was deviating from ourarliest tradition of reverence for the feminine and for female sexuality and that waves of tragedy for women for men and for a now unbalanced now plundering civilization follow from this original alienation Throughout she writes with the fervor and overwrought prose of a would be prophet who believes she has discovered a previously unknown truth that must be shared with the worldMuch ink and many pixels will be spilled about the biological determinism that underpins Wolf s central thesis and for good reason Most people understand that it s insulting to men to suggest that they re helplessly beholden to the impulses of their sex organs or that their character is reliant on their sexual satisfaction It should be no different for women It also makes no sense What of the many women whose spina bifida can t be cured like Wolf s was Does their diminished capacity for Wolf s favorite orgasm really diminish them as people Surely celibates women with abusive partners cisgender men and all manner of people not having spiritually mindblowing high orgasms her term regularly prove themselves capable of remarkable creativity ambition and loveIf Wolf had written a personal memoir called My Vagina this self indulgent tunnel vision could be perhaps Taken The Anthology excused But she s presenting it instead as a Universal Theory of Women and that s both offensive and dangerousThe book collapses under the weight of a breathtaking narcissism If it doesn t apply to Naomi it doesn txist Despite the title this is a book Schematic Design explicitly andxclusively about straight vaginas Lesbians and bisexual women They re a mystery to her beyond the scope of the book Women of color are rarely referenced appearing mostly as victims goddesses or Josephine Baker Women who don t have vaginas and people with vaginas who aren t women Never heard of The Second Sister em Nor does she bother to define key terms like female body female brain or femininity since clearly her understanding of the phrases is universal If Wolf had written a personal memoir called My Vagina this self indulgent tunnel vision could be perhapsxcused But she s presenting it instead as a Universal Theory of Women and that s both offensive and dangerousIn making her case for the vagina as destiny Wolf ignores profound cultural realities She asserts without sarcasm that nowadays women can do whatever they wish sexually and be bad girls with little stigma a fact that would come as a surprise to women of color Sandra Fluke and any female survivor of sexual assault She insists that women who are alienated from their sexuality or unsatisfied with their sex lives lack only male partners with better skills as though misogyny poverty and any number of other structural oppressions don t Perfect Match (Girl Talk, exist She draws on ancient cultures to prove that the vagina s right place is as an object of worship though these same cultures also believed the sun revolved around the Earth She sven untroubled by the fact that many of the ancient traditions she cites so credulously valued the vagina for the ways it supposedly benefits men In Taoist sexual texts women were understood to mit medicinal fluids from various parts of their bodies The man s goal for the sake of his own health was to stir the release of these precious fluids Wolf s self absorption also produces terrible journalism She may have had her pelvic nerve cured and her Technicolor orgasms restored but she still suffers from a profound lack of curiosity She is given to sweeping generalizations about gender In a typical passage Wolf asserts that in some senses having to do with consciousness sex for women is a different thing altogether than sex is for men She provides scant vidence for this assertion nor does she consider counterexamples What about intersex people Do women who are sexually attracted to women really have different neurobiology from straight women She s silent on the matter though she s happy to assert that what straight women need is for men to bone them Wolf would have me say make love lest they turn into harpy shrews These are seriously the only two options she provides Straight men would do well to ask themselves Do I want to be married to a Goddess or a bitch Unfortunately there is not physiologically much middle ground Either they are AHS Encyclopedia of Plants and Flowers extremely well treated sexually orlse they become physically uncomfortable and Let’s Call It a Doomsday emotionally irritable Like a New York Times trend piece she relies heavily on the anecdata of the privileged informally polling her friends students at Oxford and Anaiis Nin to support her pet theories The followingxchange with therapist Nancy Fish needs no context whatsoever as it serves as a template for nearly very xchange in the book What I am really teasing out is whether your clinical xperience confirms what is right now just an intuition for me with some science to hint in that direction prompts Wolf Fish replies I definitely think based on my clinical xperience that what you are saying is very very valid Never is Wolf led down a path that contradicts her Garfield Swallows His Pride (Garfield, expectations Never do twoxperts or two scientific studies have conflicting findings Even her many informal surveys of friends of friends on Facebook turn up no Prohibido nacer examples of anyone whose livedxperience challenges Wolf s worldview Wolf s road to vaginal discovery has only two bumps the medical condition that kicked it off and the occasional man who does or says something anti vagina causing Wolf to have to lay down and have a good cry or suffer months of writers block Women never say anti vagina things in Wolf s world presumably because in her world women are vaginasIt s as if Wolf is Rip Van Winkle having fallen asleep shortly after The Beauty Myth was published in 1991 and only waking up in time to tell us we should all be having sex like she doesIt s no surprise then that Serafina and the Seven Stars everyone from antiuitiesxperts to sex scientists have been challenging the rigor of her research My area of Nighthawk (Conard County, expertise is feminism so I found her review of feminist approaches to sexuality particularly galling It s as if Wolf is Rip Van Winkle having fallen asleep shortly after The Beauty Myth was published in 1991 and only waking up in time to tell us we should all be having sex like she does She seems bizarrely unaware forxample that Natalie Angier wrote Woman An Intimate Geography in 2002 What She Saw (Conard County even though was a New York Times bestseller and was a finalist for the National Book Award Having devoted anntire chapter to Victorian England s relationship with the vagina she reduces all feminist thought and activism on the subject since the Rivals Break (Sharpe Donovan early 90s to one paragraph Instead of citing work like Angier s or other feminist achievements from the last two decades the Riot Grrl movement bell hooks trilogy on love and sexuality Slut Walks and the SisterSong Reproductive Justice Collective she invokes contemporary straw feminists who want to glamorize the clitoris at thexpense of the vagina and insist that all liberated women fuck like men whatever that means Thank goodness Wolf has finally arrived to reveal the truth about our bodies to usUltimately what would Wolf have us believe about our bodies It s hard to tell She claims to want to undo the ways in which women are reduced to their genitals but spends most of her project telling us that as goes the vagina so goes the woman In the first chapter she goes into great detail about the ways different women s neural wiring can result in a wide range of sexual preferences and responses but then spends multiple chapters later in the book credulously uoting Tantra advocates who say things like For some women the lightest touch of a feather can be orgasmic But most women in this culture need a lot of friction based stimulation which suggests that there is loss of sensitivity for them She suggests that we re hardwired to like rape fantasies and rough sex but tells us we shouldn t indulge in them because we ll get addicted and ignore our somehow Namen-Und Sach-Register Zum Jahresbericht �ber Die Fortschritte in Der Lehre Von Den Pathogenen Mikroorganismen Umfassend Bacterien, Pilze Und Protozo�n eually hardwired need for safe tender gentle lovemaking with a committed guy So we re all biologically predisposed to get off differently but if we want friction or kink we re damagedWolf does gesture at some real and urgent issues The pandemic of sexual violence against women around the world the misogynist microagressions that women have to negotiate daily rampant media sexualization that goes along with a deep silent river of female sexual dissatisfaction It s not that I don t share some of Wolf s alarm at the current state of sexual affairs I wrote anntire book to help women reclaim our sexual agency Rape is an ongoing public health crisis that s treated as the status uo as inevitable as the weather Sex ducation in the US is a shameful shambles and we re all in desperate need of accurate and judgment free information about our bodies and our sexual health Meanwhile we live in a deeply sexualized culture in which corporate media politicians and religious leaders constantly tell women and girls that the most important thing about them is what they are or aren t doing with their sexuality This sexualization has real conseuences It can impair girls ability to perform math and logic tasks and xacerbate Alien Chastity Belt eating disorders and depression It creates in all of us whatever our gender unrealistic often negativexpectations about sexuality alienating us from our genuine sexual needs and boundaries Which is Faker exactly why this book is so harmful It s just as sexualizing to sacralize vaginas as it is to demean them Whatever Wolf s intention Vagina is just another billboard telling women and girls that the only thing that matters about us is what s happening down there We get no closer to a freer world when we worship one specific genital configuration or one particular kind of sexualxperience Real sexual liberation will only be achieved when we re fooling around on a genuinely Lawbreakers Suspense Stories eual playing field About the AuthorJaclyn Friedman is author of What You Really Really Want The Smart Girl s Shame Free Guide to Sex and Safety andditor of Yes Means Yes Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape She is HIPPO IN THE GARDEN executive director of Women Action the Media and a charter member of Counteruo a coalition dedicated to challenging the ways we respond to sexual violence Why is this book not a must read forveryone who owns a vagina and veryone who does not own a vagina but hopes to have a partner who will share hers The biology is important to Naomi Wolf s argument as is the chemistry but if you don t like that sort of thing ignore it and focus on The Goddess Array What woman does not wish to be treated according to the Goddess Array If treating a woman that way makes her happier healthier and willing to share I mean her life not just her vagina then what man in his right mind would not be willing to study the Goddess Array learn it and apply it throughout his lifeThat said there appear to be doubters verywhere many of them women beginning with the female critic who savaged the book in the New York Times I turned to GoodReads and also found reviews by women readers here who savaged Vagina As if Shadow (New Species, enough vaginas had not been savaged already What am I missing here Why am I so attracted to this book which others find badly researched badly thought out and badly writtenPerhaps at this point I need tostablish my bona fides as a man I am a husband of 43 years father of three grandfather of 7 I was an infantry platoon leader in the 101st Airborne in Vietnam Since then I have been a bicycle racer a coach and a scoutmaster When I read Vagina I realized that simply put I could have 細味人生100篇 easily treated my wife better making both of us happier throughout our marriage by making the Goddess Array a part of ourveryday lives What woman does not want candles and flowers to be touched lovingly to have her man look deeply into her The Gathering (Darkness Rising, eyes and tell hervery day how much she is loved and valued and how beautiful she seems to him What woman does not want to be taken seriously to truly be listened to when she speaks and to be treated with decency and honorWhy do American Men treat their women like Goddesses when they are courting them and then ignore them denigrate them and treat them like the hired help after the honeymoonMs Wolfe has her theories and they may or may not be valid but I found the arguments in Vagina compelling I have asked my wife to read it but whether she does or not I intend to let the Goddess Array guide me for the rest of our marriage or until she tells me to just uit telling her that she is loved touching herlistening to her lighting candles and bringing her roses I don t think that Ms Wolf MongoDB expects her to tell me to stop I don txpect it Chastity either Naomi Wolf was very distraught when she noticed that her sex life lost its poetic dimension One night out of desperation she prayed next to the stove In case you were wondering the stove was cold ironwood and completely irrelevant to the content of this book Bargaining with the universe and any deity willing to listen to her plight she promised that if she could be healed she would share thexperience and what she learned from it with Experiential Learning everyonelse and she would make money off of it She really is self Die Neurobiologie des Glücks entitled narcissistic out of her goddamn mind a woman who seriously needs to get a grip an incredibly selfless woman The uni. And deeplyngaging book that A Final Story: Science, Myth, and Beginnings elucidates the ties between a woman'sxperience of her vagina and her sense of self; her impulses dreams and courage; and her role in love and in society in completely new and revelatory ways sure to provoke impassioned conversationA brilliant and nuanced synthesis of physiology history and cultural criticism Vagina A New Biography xplores the physical political and spiritual implications of this startling series of new scientific breakthroughs for women and for society as a whole from a writer whose conviction and keen intelligence have propelled her works to the tops of bestseller lists and firmly into the realms of modern classi.
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Naomi Wolf is the author of seven books including the New York Times bestsellers The Beauty Myth The End of America and Give Me Liberty She has toured the world speaking to audiences of all walks of life about gender euality social justice and most recently the defense of liberty in America and internationally She is the cofounder of the Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership which te