BOOKS The Honest Truth About Dishonesty How We Lie to Everyone Especially Ourselves Ú Dan Ariely – chernov–art.com
How can such depressing book be so much fun to read Dan Ariely is n excellent uthor I ve read two of his previous books Bones To Pick and I haven t been disappointed yet Ariely combines light hearted writing style Clockworks and Corsets a solid set of psychology studies many of which he personally conductednd big dose of common sense Many of Ariely s findings re not intuitive t first glance but he is ble to explain his findings nd make them understandable to the readerAriely shows why we cheat but with limit We do not cheat to the maximum extent possible even when it is possible to get way with it Instead most people think of themselves s honest We cheat somewhat but not enough to call into uestion our self image of being basically honest The book describes New Girl on the Job a bunch of psychology experiments where subjectsre Restaurant Weeks Are Murder able to cheat without obvious conseuencesnd thereby earn some extra money Ariely does n excellent job t showing the various factors that inhibit or encourage dishonesty He discusses cheating on tests politicians nd bankers bankers cheat than politicians golf players who tend to cheat lot cheating by people of different nationalities Her Wounded Warrior all nationalitiesnd cultures tend to cheat bout the same mount cheating by people in groups nd by religious people no different from non religiousAriely discusses plagiarism by students nd ordered n essay on the subject of cheating from n essay mill He received One House Over (The Neighbors) an essay consisting of gibberish that wouldn t be satisfactory forny student He concludes that essay mills re not problem But I think that this single bit of Between You and Me (The Harrisons, anecdotal evidence is not exactly convincingAriely constantly looks forpproaches that may help to reduce cheating on tax forms insurance claim forms Cinderella and the Ghost (The Cursed Princes, and on college tests He comes up with number of good practical suggestions none of which is going to be used very much in the near term This is fun book easy to read nd bsolutely fascinating It s strange to say but I never expected book on dishonesty to be so tameeven small The book is look t dishonesty especially cheating nd covers the uthor s own experiments nd what they tell us bout cheating The most important points re these 1 We re not purely rational cheaters we usually don t cheat to the fullest extent possible we typically just fudge things in our favor Thus we re lso sensitive to self image 2 We cheat much less when we re given subtle reminders of our moral codes or ny moral codes 3 We re likely to take dvantage of fuzzy reality to fudge in our favor 4 Small cts such s wearing counterfeits makes larger forms of cheating permissible 5 Creative people tend to be dishonest 6 Witnessing certain types of dishonesty make us likely to cheat though we re less likely to cheat if we witness someone from different group doing itAnd there re main points I like that the book draws conclusions from the Killer Physique (Savannah Reid Mystery, author s own experiments I ve read many good books recently that tackle big uestions But most of them have had to tackle those big uestions by drawing from variety of research that is lready vai See this review on my blog cheat on crosswords I don t cheat exactly I don t look t the nswer key THAT would be Cheating with capital C Instead I cheat with lower case c I Google or Wiki the subject of the difficult clues online This only works for clues with keywords like n uthor s name or Enticing the Earl a movie title but thenswers I find give me enough forward motion to continue solving the puzzle If I get stumped gain I scan the clues for keywords gainI don t consider this letter of the law Cheating because I Jewish German Revolution am working to find the solutions instead of just getting them from thenswer key You may be crossword purist who is ppalled t my lack of morals You d be making mistake though to think my morals when it comes to crosswords re based on the same ssumptions you holdIt Money Makin Mamas Collection all comes down to why I do crossword puzzles in the first place You M Purist may crave the challengend the self esteem boost when successfully completing Bound To Love Her (Zebra Debut) a NYT Friday entry I on the other hand find it relaxing to lazily Internet search triviand methodically fill in the tiny suares with the gems I find while learning Hard to Handle (Fortis a bit in the processAm I cheating myself I don t think so Afterll I m learning things First Comes Desire (Pirates Prize and relaxing I m not enteringny crossword competitions I m not even going for bragging rights For me crosswords re rote exercise My methods work for me In fact M Purist I think your snobby morality What Lies Between Lovers about how crosswords should be done is elitistnd exclusionary Upon hearing my theories one crossword bandoning friend of mine lit up with discovery She had stopped doing the puzzles because their difficulty proved unsurmountable but when we talked she realized she d been cheating herself out of fun pasttime because of her overblown sense of what s right in crossworddom Call us cheater mcgeeters if you must but my friend Rebel Yell (Savage Texas, and Ire happily googling A Matter of Some Scandal away our gridsDuke researchernd EBE Economic Behaviorist Extraordinaire Dan Ariely may side with the crossword purists on this one In his latest book The Honest Truth About Dishonesty How We Lie to Everyone Especially Ourselves THTAD Dr Ariely cites his own research nd research of close colleagues on the subject of cheating From Fun with Fudging nd the What the Hell Factor Ariely examines many different ways we cheat consciously nd unconsciously His clever experiments re great Worth The Trade (More Than A Game, at catching unwitting peoplet the pervasive self deception that none of us seem to be ble to resistThe book is probably his toughest read yet I found Predictably Irrational to be fun nd delightful read The Upside of Irrationality was tiny bit challenging THTAD is by far the most research nd dilemma heavy of the 3 Perhaps it is the subject matter nd being faced with my own shortcomings but it seems this book had the least The Fix: Soccer and Organized Crime amount of engagingnecdotal evidence of Ariely s signature storytelling charm While reading THTAD many times I found myself fading in that reading college textbooks t midnight way I don t recall this feeling with the other two booksMy meandering could be the disgust factor t work Ariely mentions Enron nd Bernie Madoff s well The Closest Possible Union as Wall Streetnd the 2008 crash then goes on to explain how cheating can be social nd become contagious It s hardly light fare despite Ariely s ttempts to soften the blow with his self deprecating nd t times mischievous humorNonetheless I read the book carefully in its entirety even though I d have to backtrack often to where my mind checked out Lost Princess and begingain Ariely s insights into human behavior Postcards from Last Summer are useful in lifend in business In this book I learned why I shouldn t trust the car repair guy I ve known forever why I should draw pictures of eyes Hot Shot and hang them on the snack cabinet why stack of dollar bills The Industrial Revolution are likely to stay in tact than my lunch in the work fridgend why s creative person I may have less gray matter in my brain than you dull types out thereWhere the book falls short besides the lack of Ariely s personal stories is in the rea of some needed philosophical talk bout morals Ariely hints t the possibility of varying moral codes when he talks briefly bout the perception of cheating in different cultures but he fails to lay down common compass from which we ll discern our moral directions Ariely ssumes we re ll following letter of the law pproach to Cheating Peace of Me and that his experiments subjects could only be following that same supposedly Judeo Christianpproach But I think Ariely would ve done well to take paragraph or two to lay out his ssumptionsbiases We can surely infer the basic Western moral sense but if Ariely took some time to lay out what exactly he thinks is the official definition of Cheating even if only within the confines of his own experiments his My Soul Then Sings assertionsbout how we Wildwood all unconsciously cheat would holdll the pu. The New York Times bestselling uthor of Predictably Irrational nd The Upside of Irrationality returns with thought provoking work to challenge our preconceptions bout dishonesty nd urge us to take n honest look t ourselvesDoes the chance of getting caught ffect how likely we re to cheatHow do companies pave the way for dishonestyDoes collaboration make us honest or less soDoes religion improve our honestyMost of us think of ourselves Raiding with Morgan as honest but in fact well cheat From Washington to Wall Street the classroom to the workplace unethical behavior is everywhere None of us is immune whether it's the white lie to head off
Nch Although his matrices experiment designs seem pretty rock solid there is possibility that Ariely may have missed two totally different motivations behind cheating etiuette nd convenienceIn Chapter 9 Collaborative Cheating Why Two Heads Aren t Necessarily Better than One Dr Ariely presents some findings that suggest we cheat with others ndor for others benefit ltruistic cheating Earlier in the book he Lethal Licorice (Amish Candy Shop Mystery, also cites karmas Purses and Poison a way we justify taking few extra pens from work when they failed to give us our yearly bonus But I think this is where Ariely missed Rogue on the Rollaway an opportunity to explore the finer tunedspect of cultural etiuette nd convenience Sometimes certain behaviors re expected for reasons unknown to us but we re savvy enough to pick up on signals sent by those round us For example in Ariely s bad ctor experiment the ctor David portrayed bad decisions not that David was poorly skilled t theatrical rts When David sked whether or not he should cheat the researcher said You can do what you want David then obviously cheated nd was not rebuked This is such n odd occurrence in life it s possible that the real subjects in the experiment may have surmised that the researcher ctually preferred for whatever mysterious reason that the subjects cheated Perhaps it would get her the results she wanted Who would deny her It would be polite then to do what is expected nd cheat like David or find moral middle ground nd cheat little than normal which is what the subjects didAnother experiment Ariely cited was done in coffee shop Customers were handed too much change nd Ariely wanted to see how many people would return the excess nd how much of it they d return I m deeply familiar with this very scenario because I ve experienced it than once with my fanatically scrupulous father who has been known to get into restaurant silencing rguments over bills for being undercharged Those cringe worthy moments of my youth taught me that it s better etiuette to leave heftier tip in case the waitstaff notices the error later than to Haunted House Murder (A Lucy Stone Mystery, argue that we need to pay Perhaps Ariely would just call this picking up on signals the collaborative effect but I find it slightly different than what he describess group cheating in the bookI run into Sweet Southern Hearts (A Willow Hill Novel Book 3) a collaborative effect everyday here in the suburbs butgain it isn t group cheating s much s it is cultural norm Take the library loans of music for example I m under the impression that if I check out Nicki Minaj s lastest CD I m to listen to it but not download it If I download it to be ble to listen to it I should delete the Daddy's Girl Series: A Taboo Erotic Collection album when I return the CD to the library My fathernd my brother lso stickler would delete the files They would lso rgue probably loudly with people on the street bout how everyone should delete ny music not bought through legitimate outlets But if word got out Dark Tides (Dark Tides around my town that I was making my tween delete the music she borrowed from the library I d get the reputation ofn overly strict trifling Weathering the Storm and somewhat crazy parent Put simply it would be just plain weirdAnother example of this peer pressure toccept certain rules is living in Wrong for Me (Motor City Royals, an organized crime dominantrea which I did growing up I dare not talk bout it too much for obvious reasons but I will say that our views on the definitions of crime nd wrong didn t necessarily match up to say Fiddle: One Woman, Four Strings, and 8,000 Miles of Music a nice Midwestern Mayberry type town s views We thought of ourselvess looking t the big picture The police They weren t the most upstanding group Electronics companies What the ones with the child labor in Indonesia Bankers Don t get me started We were keeping whole region of the state thousands of families float mostly via legitimate means What were ll those people doing for Downright Dead anybody Who wants stickler round nyway Rule followers pencil pushers Miss Manners they only see right in front of their own noses Where I come from that s very immature nd definitely no fun way to beAriely does mention the social Left Fur Dead aspect behind cheatings I said And I may just be lying to myself s he would say But I do believe there re subtle signals we send to each other that tell us how we re expected to behave nd I wonder if Death by Tea any of those signals came into play in Ariely s experiments This isn t the strongest of criticisms of course It s trifling point Loyalty and Lies (Chastity Falls, a fixation on minutiae party pooper whine But I guess like my father I m set to be the one that messes up everyone s good timeTomorrow I ll be sitting in on conference with Dan Ariely I ll let you know how it goes In the meantime let me know if you have ny uestions for himAny thoughts Have you read the book What did you think This is By Way Of A Wager a trulywesome book Not only it is very easy to read nd understand but it has study designs that re so witty I feel I m getting smarter just by reading it The information presented here is so important that nyone in leadership position must be ware of this It is very well in ccord with the data from the book Pathological Altruism by B Oakley nd points out some of the misinterpretations presented in The Invisible Gorilla If you re interested in why people lie nd cheat how The Wayward Bride (Besotted Scots, a badpple can ruin the whole basket nd how to prevent these read this book Also read this When I was in college I learned bit Such a Dance about the Simple Model of Rational Crime which basically states that people liecheat by rationally lookingt the pros nd cons nd make decision based on that Needless to say this never sat right with me People don t make rational decisions they just don tIn this book Ariely puts forth nother theory one that he calls the Fudge Factor The theory goes that there re basically two opposing forces when we decide whether to lie or cheat One of the forces is that we want to think of ourselves s good nd righteous people The other force is that we want to get out of situations So the uestion is how much re we willing to fudge the truth La bte du marais and still think of ourselvess honest Laos: Keystone Of Indochina and good peopleThrough uite few experiments Ariely explores this How Foreign Policy Decisions Are Made In The Third World along with what may influence it in one way ornother Personally these theories nd experiments sat lot better with me than the SMORC ever did The Geeking Out on 11C author makes lyingnd cheating Et ainsi de suite an incredibly interesting topicnd the experiments The Shoshoni Cookbook are novelnd informative The Historias sobre los Fondos Bahá'ís author is clearlyn entertaining person Reasoning with the Infinite: From the Closed World to the Mathematical Universe and knows how to tell good story This book basically felt Real Food/Fake Food: Why You Don’t Know What You’re Eating and What You Can Do About It as though he wanted to show off his superwesome experiments nd findings excitedly It made it fun readMy biggest complaint is that in ll the experiments the reward far outweighed the conseuences of being caught What bout in situations like cheating on spouse where the conseuences could possibly destroy lives What bout when the conseuences outweigh the reward nd yet we liecheat nywayAriely what would you make of this A few years back my boyfriend t the time had soft top Jeep One morning we came outside to find that someone had cut out the back window nd gotten into the car The thief left ll the expensive electronics stereo ipod etc but took ll the change off the floor It seemed like the guy had gone through uite lot of effort for fairly minuscule rewardBook Received Through Giveaways In ll honesty this book was Mr Darcy's Cottage of Earthly Delights: Shades of Pride and Prejudice a letdown The human propensity for lyingnd cheating should be juicy topic but Ariely manages to suash reader interest by mostly confining his experiments to sterile classrooms where one group of student volunteers fter nother pencil in nswers to one dull test fter nother usually involving dotted matrixes one dollar bills nd paper shredders When Ariely nd colleagues DO leave the rtificial environment of the classroom sending blind girl into farmers market to buy tomatoes for example their research yields some interesting results But back to that classroom our intrepid social scientist s big discovery. Rouble or padding our expense reports In The Honest Truth About Dishonesty ward winning bestselling uthor Dan Ariely turns his uniue insight nd innovative research to the uestion of dishonestyGenerally we ssume that cheating like most other decisions is based on rational cost benefit Yoga Kitchen: Divine Recipes from the Shoshoni Yoga Retreat analysis But Arielyrgues Design Works: How to Tackle Your Toughest Innovation Challenges Through Business Design and then demonstrates that it'sctually the irrational forces that we don't take into ccount that often determine whether we behave ethically or not For every Enron or political bribe there re countless puffed résumés hidden commissions nd knockoff purses In The Honest Truth About Dishonesty Ariely shows why som.
Is this We ll cheat but only little bit And if we can just get few reminders that cheating is bad maybe we won t do it so much That s not exactly scientific breakthrough it s simple common sense And that s the brutal truth This might save you needing to read the book this is the cartoon version few years go I read Predictably Irrational book that remains one of my favourite books on Behavioural Economics The research reported in that book has just bout everything going for it it is musing fascinatingly interesting clever nd fundamentally undermines the core dogma of our ge that we re economically rational gents cting purely on the basis of our own enlightened self interestHis next book The Up side of Irrationality wasn t nearly s good but it did report his outsourced research conducted in India on the effects of providing large bonus pay for performance Which is something that is better explained in Dan Pink s book Drive All the same this research lone is worth the price of the book It does much to explain the current mess we Loyalty and Lies (Chastity Falls, are innd even gives some indication of what we might want to do to get back out of that mess His latest book this one is probably better read than the last one but suffers from the fact that I ve now heard most of this research before However where this book really succeeds is in how it goes bout explaining the conseuences of this research that is in the story it tells Essentially we re ll cheaters The thing is that we do not cheat Jeep. Sur les traces de la lgende at every opportunitys standard economic theory might have us predict but rather we cheat just enough so that we can go on considering ourselves to be overall good people This is why we re less likely to cheat when reminded of the Ten Commandments or even other ethical frameworks that we don t even believe in This is lso why you might have luck in retrieving money you left in The Abbeyville Way a communal fridge than can of coke you left there People tend to be less moral with the greater distance from money the thing they re borrowing has This lso includes cheating on tests Stations of the Lost: The Treatment of Skid Row Alcoholics and tax returns when the end result will be us being given moneyBut the most interesting research in this book I thought was that conducted with people who were told they were wearing fake or real designer sunglasses Dan found that if you thought you were wearing fake sunglasses you were likely to cheat on other tests they got you to take The reason being that such sunglassesre purchased s kind of display of status meant to display of the wealth of the owner Wearing fake sunglasses of this type ridiculously expensive bits of plastic purely designed Treasure Diver (Choose Your Own Adventure, as status symbols is kind of lie but unlike other lies we tell ourselves it is A Shot at Love a soul destroying one If we take the can of coke from the fridge it isn Old Records Never Die: One Man's Quest for His Vinyl and His Past act which is over in no timend w METHODS METHODS METHODS Just because someone says they did Ask an Astronaut a studynd here Dead of Night are the findings it doesn t mean those findings were robust or statically significant or b that you can generalize those findings to other phenomena Not only were Ariely s studies extremely softsubjective but he The Voyage Unplanned actually took those extremely unreliable resultsnd The Dwelling applied them to other social situations he had no businesspplying them too I never know how to rate these books The uestions social scientists want to nswer re so interesting worth 5 stars The methods they employ to try to nswer those uestions re often so lacking that it is grossly irresponsible to publish the findings making me want to give it one star There were so many studies I could have taken issue with in this book Here Vienna 1814: How the Conquerors of Napoleon Made War, Peace, and Love at the Congress of Vienna are just sampling of what passed for ctual science in Ariely s book Ariely was ttempting to understand ethics very subjective subject to begin with nd provided subjects with fashion brand name sunglasses Adaptations: From Short Story to Big Screen: 35 Great Stories That Have Inspired Great Films and perceived knockoff sunglasses even thoughll sunglasses were real Subjects then underwent his matrices solving condition which I do not believe tells us nything t ll bout the real world to begin with Easy and those who believed they were wearing knockoffs cheated If you gave me knockoff pair of sunglasses jeans purse ring Morrissey y los atormentados and told me outright it was generic which cost few dollars I would find it ethical than spending hundreds or thousands of dollars to prove I m superior human being by wearing the expensive name brand item you gave me It could reasonably be Real Magic: Ancient Wisdom, Modern Science, and a Guide to the Secret Power of the Universe argued that people who hoard money in order to walkround looking like Interview with the Vampire a superior human being by branding themselves with labels other people could neverfford Emma of Aurora (Change and Cherish Historical are far less ethical than people wearing generic items After providing his findingsbout the dubious ethical nature of people who wear knockoffs Ariely suggested you should be weary of your date if she wear knockoff So is the scientific message is that only very rich self important people re honest Just The Best Cook in the World: Tales from My Momma's Table as troubling Ariely is fond of the type of studies made famous by Adrian Raine A few yearsgo Raine who studies psychopaths but professes not to be one was caught luring young Asian girls to hotel rooms with the promise of possible dmission to Penn How did he escape the MeToo movement I have no idea His science is just bout s bad s his behavior Raine studied Ravished by a Duke antisocial personalities by going to temp Damn Delicious Meal Prep agency becauses we ll know if you work t temp gency you Deep Lane: Poems are probably psychopath Not only that but we know that Komisario Nuusku ja makkaratehtaan arvoitus a trait ofll psychopaths is lying However Raine who euated psychopaths with temp workers gave the psychopaths self report uestionnaire Self report is never scientifically robust ever but self report for people you hope re liars Raine took the self report nswers s truths Think Our Necessary Shadow: The Nature and Meaning of Psychiatry about that Self report is bad to begin with But giving self report to weed out the lairs how is that going to provideny type of sample you can trust Adrian decided they were liars AND that he would trust their self report From the subjects identified through self report Raine imaged his little sample of ntisocial folks nd presented his neuroscientific findings People love it because they don t think The Online Diary of a Masochistic Submissive about how he got those findings Ariely included study that makes this very claim nd he loved it He did not think bout it critically t ll I could dd to this sampling ny nd ll matrix experiments carried out by Ariely This book was supposed to be my downtime book the book I read while falling sleep I was so worked up that I had to change it to non downtime book We ll dmit to telling white lies or cheatingbending the truth My Lady Viper and usually several times day How often do we Sunflower admit tond even realize that we lso lie to ourselves to the point of believing our own dishonesty Best selling uthor professor Periyar: A Political Biography of E.V. Ramasamy and cognitive psychologist Dan Ariely explores the topic in The honest truth is were ll dishonestI want to share real life scenario that happened with me just yesterday right Doughnuts: Simple and Delicious Recipes to Make at Home after I finished reading Dan Ariely s new book The Honest Truth About DishonestyThe situation Annonymous person t our office refills the office refrigerator with dozen small water bottles everyday They re stacked in the top compartment on their own unlocked unmarked un nything They re just there Sinister isn t it Next to that fridge re two water coolers that re obviously for everyone to use So who re the bottles forThe reasoning In terms of water consumption I personally prefer having bottle on my desk rather than walking back nd forth to the kitchen for glass of water At other times I either forget or get too lazy to get my own supplies nd that s when my dishonest behavior kicks inThe bad behaviour I found that I was occasionally opening the fridge nd helping myself to one water bottle knowing that they belonged to someone else In the beginning it was discreet but fter going unnoticed for so long I gradually stopped putting effort in hiding Commit!: Unlock Your Full Potential and Learn to Lead Yourself and carried on believing. E thingsre easier to lie bout; how getting caught matters less than we think; nd how business practices pave the way for unethical behavior both intentionally Announcing Trouble and unintentionally Ariely explores how unethical behavior works in the personal professionalnd political worlds nd how it ffects The Book of Revelation: all of us evens we think of ourselves The Sound of Music Story: How A Beguiling Young Novice, A Handsome Austrian Captain, and Ten Singing von Trapp Children Inspired the Most Beloved Film of All Time as having high moral standardsButll is not lost Ariely Edward Keating: Main Street: The Lost Dream of Route 66 also identifies what keeps us honest pointing the way forchieving higher ethics in our everyday lives With compelling personal nd cademic findings The Honest Truth About Dishonesty will change the way we see ourselves our ctions nd other.
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WikipediaDan Ariely is the James B Duke Professor of Behavioral Economics at Duke University He also holds an appointment at the MIT Media Lab where he is the head of the eRationality research group He was formerly the Alfred P Sloan Professor of Behavioral Economics at MIT Sloan School of ManagementDan Ariely grew up in Israel after birth in New York He served in the Israeli army and when 18 suffered third degree burns over 70 percent of his body from an accidental magnesium flare explosion during trainingAriely recovered and went on to graduate from Tel Aviv University and received a PhD and MA in cognitive psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and a PhD in business from Duke University His research focuses on discovering and measuring how people make decisions He models the human decision making process and in particular the irrational decisions that we all make every dayAriely is the author of the book Predictably Irrational The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions which was published on February 19 2008 by HarperCollins When asked whether reading Predictably Irrational and understanding one's irrational behaviors could make a person's life worse such as by defeating the benefits of a placebo Ariely responded that there could be a short term cost but that there would also likely be longterm benefits and that reading his book would not make a person worse off