Alison Gopnik: The Gardener and the Carpenter What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children



D to let children develop in their wn ways rather than trying to shape them into a parent s vision Ready to Restore: The Layman's Guide to Christian Counseling of who they should be Confirmed my experience withur 2 year Ready to Restore old grandson and gave me insights to mywn development in childhood Highly recommend this book to all parents grand parents and ther relatives f children as well as anyone who teaches Shieldmaiden Book 1: Quest for the Jewel or works with children Informative and fun to read This was a fairly uick read that packed in a lotf depth The central premise Traficada: Diário de uma Escrava Sexual (Portuguese Edition) of the book is that parenting as a verb as an actf trying to produce a certain type Encounter at Buff Ledge: A UFO Case History of adult is a endeavor that does not work well and makes us less happy Instead we should thinkf being a parent as providing an environment where the uniue relationship between children and those who care for them parents r therwise can help them learn about and explore the worldHumans have a long period Regarde, c'est maman ! of childhood relative to most animals This childhood provides a chance for a long periodf exploration learning and variability Parents transmit their cultural and technological knowledge to children and children take that and shape their knowledge so that eventually they can shape the w I bought this book because I loved this piece in the Wall Street Journal Unfortunately I think that piece boils down much The Bricklayer of what is interesting in the book itself I find Gopnik s persona part enthusiastic grandmother part knowledgeable researcher very appealing so I never found the book difficult to read But it did feel in spitef its brevity a little meandering and somewhat meager in its central insights The analogy that gives the book its title parents need to be like gardeners creating sustaining environments for their children and enjoying them for their wn development including its surprises rather than like carpenters who follow sets f rules to produce something according to a blueprint is the most vivid and helpful insight here There s a long section Vinny: Victory Over Drugs, Death, and Degradation on play and how important play is for child development and for a numberf The Occult Detector (The Semi Dual Stories Book 1) other mammals as well This might surprise some readers but perhaps I am so convincedf this point already that aside from articulating clearly what play gives children theory f mind the ability to problem solve and to produce counterfactual possibilities this section f the book was not as much Pioneer Jews: A New Life in the Far West of a revelation Gopnik does pointut that when we try to teach children things they learn less that they should be given Eating Thin for Life: Food Secrets Recipes from People Who Have Lost Weight Kept It Off open territory to explore in rather than have an adult trotut a map and that was extremely interesting particularly when she described some f the experiments her lab has run n this idea Another section We, the People on technology felt riddled with truisms we always worry about new technologies children are always early adopters we have no idea what that will mean for the future but usually somelder technologies are retained alongside the new devices that dominate culture I like Gopnik and I wanted to love this book and I did love its endorsement Single of caring for children as a central part in giving life meaning and alsof producing an ethical engagement to society that what seems like the selfish narrowness f caring for ne child can in fact be drawn upon to foster social choices that support all children But again this sounds a bit platitudinous no Mainly I think Gopnik is adding to the contemporary conversation about parenting by saying we should parent less be available And that feels helpful but it also feels like it s as far as this book really goes Oh wait But maybe the best bit is the part where she describes preschoolers unfocused attention and explains that adult brains f psilocybin are closest to preschooler brains all the time Exceptionally lucid and humane verview f a vast amount f scientific research n learning and cognitive development The subtitle and cover are a bit f a misdirection this is not a gauzy parenting how to book Instead it s a thought provoking richly detailed and well written exploration f how we learn by imitating by listening by playing an. Adres es como cuidar un jardín La labor de los padres es la de procurar un medio fértil estable y seguro ue permita prosperar a muchas variedades de flores Crear un ecosistema vigoroso y flexible ue facilite ue los propio.

In some ways this is a book that is best summarized by its title When we act as parents Dr Gopnik is telling us we should think f The Book Of The Superiority Of Dogs Over Many Of Those Who Wear Clothes ourselves as gardeners than as carpenters The relevant difference is that the gardener is focusedn growth but doesn t usually try to insure details such as exactly how many leaves grow n the plant r where just that there be about the right amount Rescuing a Werewolf of leaves growing A carpentern the Making Women Pay other hand usually does a lotf rather precise measuring and cutting insuring a certain final GloomCookie outcome where all the pieces fit together Gopnik appears to be concerned that modern parenting she dislikes the verb by the way preferring the noun parent is becoming too similar to carpentry in its aspirations and not enough like gardeningThe devil is in the details though and that is why the book is worth reading even if you already know and in my case agree with the thesis suggested by the title Gopnik has spent decades now studying the mental processesf small children and how those change ver the first few years f life She s also been a mother and a grandmother which may seem The Jesuit only to provide anecdotal information but which I think may serve as a useful reality checkn her theorizing Unlike say Freud With Bound Hands or Skinner her theoriesn child psychology pass the test Rim of the Pit of contact with realityGopnik is a personf strong You Can Beat the Odds opinions for example believing that muchf the mess f childhood and the apparently purposeless play is not just an inevitable but a productive part f human psychology I believe it was Gopnik who I first heard voice the idea that children are society s RD department and that even if it were possible to teach them the right way to do things uickly than we do it would at least sometimes be unwise to This contributes to for example her dislike Stripes of All Types of the trend in modern schoolsf nixing unstructured play in recess time in favor f study f the topics likely to be covered in standardized testing But beyond pinions and even beyond her wn research she is thoroughly familiar with everything that has been discovered about child psychology in the last few decades and she maintains a good mix Baltimore Catechism No. 2 of personal anecdote and reference to rigorously controlled scientific studyA larger uestion is whyf that science doesn t find its way into how we raise and educate children today I suspect it is because a lot Mic manual de campanie electorală of what has been discovered would suggest thatf The Big Book of Maker Skills: Tools Techniques for Building Great Tech Projects our children s education should resemble apprenticeshipr vocational training and that is exactly the pposite f what most One Life, One Incarnation: Beautiful Bones of the education sectorf Just Joking our country has been pushing for As the percentagef the population who go n to 16 years r Times of Trouble (A Time Travel Anthology) of schooling before doing real work goes up and the percentagef BENAAMI our economic and financial sector which is reliantn that goes up student loan debt is now bigger than credit card debt in the US any indication that we should be backpedaling n that in favor f education methods utside f the classroom and standardized tests is struggling against some pretty big industries and their lobbyists It will probably take a student loan crisis The Real Bluebeard: The Life of Gilles de Rais on the levelf the 2008 mortgage crisis to cause any serious reappraisal Stay on Your Toes, Maggie Adams! of the goals and methodsf education in this countryHowever just because you can t change the way the nation educates its children doesn t mean you can t tweak how you educate your wn child r what you look for when choosing Night Train To Cherbourg: A Joszef Kiraly: Gentleman, Vampire Mystery others to help do it Whether the topic is play vs study how worried we should be about electronic devices and social mediar how to deal with adolescents being the way they are she helps us to bring the immense amount f scientific study in the last few decades to us in a way that we can understand and apply Written with authority by an academic UC Berkeley and grandmother but does not read at all like an academic writing It was a joy to read She writes about such things as tip toeing through her dark garden hand in hand with her grandson so as to not awaken the tiger in the avocado tree She explains child development and the nee. En contra de los modelos actuales de crianza ser padres no es una labor de carpintería no es un trabajo ue tenga como objetivo «tallar» a un niño para convertirlo en un modelo particular de adulto Por el contrario ser

D how learning changes in schools not usually for the better and is changed by technology not so much for the worse as you might think The implications for parents are there and the final chapter attempts to tie the preceding chapters together with an elegiac meditation n parenting For me though the meatier earlier chapters were the real revelation delivering without being too heavy handed the message Comptia Security+ Sy0-301 Exam Cram of the title As parents and caregivers we should seek to nurtureur young and accept they ll be different from Marco Polo: A Photographer's Journey our imagined progeny Given the author has written a ground breaking book like The Scientist in the Crib I had high expectationsf the gardener and the carpenter Unfortunately I felt disappointed throughout the book It was a mishmash The Cosmic Internet: Explanations from the Other Side of the author s personal experiences with her grandson Augie some research that she has done and some references tother studies The Book meandered through a meadow Marketing Aesthetics of ideas without building upn any particular ne The main theme she explores is a powerful ne but that can be addressed well enough in an article rather than a book It is ne f those books that would have been better as an article Things I love about this book The scientific research and studies she presents The research Oddly Normal on play backs up the philosophiesf RIE parenting Magda Ge I heard a great interview with this author about the difference between parenting and being a parent I mean think about it Do I wife my husband American Studio Ceramics: Innovation and Identity, 1940 to 1979 or daughter my parents What would that even look like I m not trying to change them The book mostly hits the emphasisn child psychology with kind McNally's Risk of a little what parents can do tackedn the end which is Slaves of New York okay but I kept hoping for link between theory and practice for individuals and communities There is a nice chapter in the end where she talks aboutther policy implications beyond child care but the connections to the science are there rather loose Anyway I usually like hearing about the personal lives Gou: Himetachi No Sengoku Vol. 1 of the scientists but there was a little too much Berkley here to keep my eyes from rolling little Augie I could stop there enjoying vegan frozen yogurt at the farmers market and to keep me from wondering how we apply these lessons to lower incomer even just not elite families For many kids Johannes Itten: Das Frühwerk 1907-1919 overscheduling would be a laugh when parents can t even afford piano lessons and techno fear is less about what iPhones are doing to kids minds and about whether their kid can survive school withoutne It s not that Gopnik doesn t ever mention From Rodin to Plensa: Modern Sculpture at the Meadows Museum other typesf families but that she seems to acknowledge them in the abstract and from afar the anthropologist s perspective rather than the neighbor and friend s The premise Goin' the Extra Mile (a Mary Jo Melendez mystery Book 3) of this book can be distilled from its title which makes it a great title there are two parenting styles the gardener who gives kids fertilizer space and a reason to grow and lets them do it and the carpenter who exactly measures every facetf the kid s life with the intention Dangerous Beauty of making himher grow up a certain way I already fell into the gardener space before reading this book but the argument presented in the book helped steady me in my choice Only through play experimentation trial error and messiness will a person grow into who they are My job as a parent isn t to fit my child to my measurementsr anyone else s my job is to give them the tools time and space to find their wn measurements and grow into them The Gardener and the Carpenter should have been a long blogpost I m reminded why I dislike most non fiction so much every essay is being dragged ut to 250 pages because then it can be sold as a full book I d be happy to buy these books for the same price if they re shorter but I get annoyed when filler is wasting my timeI bought this book after reading Meet the parenting expert who thinks parenting is a terrible invention from The Correspondent which appealed to me Parents shouldn t try so hard to mould the perfect child but provide a safe space in which the child can grow up and explore and make mistakes This also. S niños desarrollen muchos variados e impredecibles tipos de adultos futuros Se trata también de favorecer una relación humana específica un amor comprometido e incondicional entre un progenitor concreto y un hijo concret.

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Alison Gopnik is a professor of psychology and affiliate professor of philosophy at the University of California at Berkeley She received her BA from McGill University and her PhD from Oxford University Her honors include a Natural Sciences and Engineering Research Council of Canada University Research Fellowship an Osher Visiting Scientist Fellowship at the Exploratorium a Center for the Adv